“They hatch the eggs of vipers and spin a spider’s web. Whoever eats their eggs will die, and when one is broken, an adder is hatched.” (Isaiah 59:5)
Awhile back it seemed everywhere I turned in my house I kept coming across ugly little green spiders. A couple of times I nearly put my hand on top of the little devils.
When I look back over my life I can see there were a few “spiders” that popped up from time to time, people who were venomous and unhealthy to be around. Sometimes they could be spotted at a distance, at other times they surprised me as I had not expected them to bite.
Many times those who are ill must also deal with the reality of toxic, harmful people, and do so while facing their own physical and mental and emotionally challenging problems. While as Christians we must help those we can, return good for evil, and be a witness of Christ on earth, yet there are people who are harmful for us to be around.
It is hard to admit, but there are some people we cannot help. Doing everything in our power to reach out to them we find they bite and snap and are venomous to be around. I don’t say we should turn our back on them, but we should turn them over to Jesus.
We need to pray about our relationships, our friendships, and about those we choose to spend time with. While our awesome God brings many amazing and wonderful people into our lives, and we thank Him for them, we must be wary of those who always bring out the worst in us, those who have a negative influence on us.
And those who bring stinging pain continually into our lives. As believers, we can appeal to the common faith of our brothers and sisters. We can encourage and exhort those who are truly trying but are struggling, and sometimes are just lashing out in their pain. We need discernment to determine what God’s will may be in any relationship.
More than once the Father has warned me away from those who were spiders. Yet sometimes I had to learn the hard way.
Prayer: Dear Lord, bring people into our lives who we can encourage and help, but give us wisdom about toxic people that only You can reach. Amen.
About the Author:
Karlton Douglas lives in Ohio with his lovely wife. He is grateful for the wonderful friends and family God has given to him, and for the wisdom to avoid “spiders”.”
Have toxic people added to your affliction? Have you prayed about your relationships and friendships?
Holly Starr is a new artist in the Christian music industry and she has a beautiful voice I think you will appreciate. When I read the lyrics to this song I wondered who it was in her life that provided the inspiration for this song. We all have people in our lives who will hurt us, or who feel we have let them down, but we can love them anyway. We are called by Christ to do so. Enjoy, “I Love You Anyway” with Holly Starr. -Lisa