How Do You Cope When People Talk Trash or Treasure About How You Are Coping?

People talk trash or treasure. What message do you tell yourself when people say things about you that are closer to trash? Our new writer, Pastor Wells, shares his thoughts.

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” (Ephesians 4:29)

People in this world love to talk. This can be done in today’s world in an endless number of ways which include text messaging, video chat, and the traditional gathering or phone call. Recently, moving a thousand miles away from my family, video chat has been a way that I communicate with them a majority of the time. It was quite funny watching my father react to how this worked when he first tried it out.

There have been many days over the past twelve years where it has been hard to get out of bed. The pain was really bad or I had endured so much pain in previous days that I was too exhausted. Spending day after day in bed gave people the opportunity to start talking. They called me many different things: lazy, worthless, a faker, and even a bad father.

Already feeling quite worthless and suffering major depression, I would dwell on these words all the time and they made things even worse. Then family and friends would want me to go and participate in activities but I just could not do it. For such a long time, I let those words soak into and consume my mind. Then the thought came to mind thanks to a good friend of mine. He made me realize what God thought of me. Some of these included:

  • I am His precious child
  • He walks with me through every ounce of the pain
  • He died on the cross so that I could have healing, physically, emotionally and spiritually
  • He loves me with an everlasting love

My friend told me I needed to get out the spiritual trash can and to start throwing away the trash. Trash is those things that are negative, degrading and makes us feel ever lower and more worthless than what we might feel already. The dictionary sums it up wonderfully when it defines trash as foolish or pointless ideas, talk, or writing. He continued on to tell me that I needed to seek and find treasure. Treasure is those things that uplift, encourage, edify and help us through our daily journeys.

When we have trash spoken to us, we need to be able to take it, reject it and throw it away. We cannot do this in our own power but God can and will help us in this endeavor. When we have treasure bestowed upon us, we need to receive it and ponder it in our hearts. Not only do we receive the blessings from treasure but then we can share those blessings with others.

Prayer: Father, thank you for those people who you have surrounded us with that can love us for who we are and no matter what we are going through. I pray that through your Spirit that we can be encouraged to walk the lives given to us praising you and being a blessing to others. Help us to reject those things that are said that are trash and to stand upon Your promises. We ask this in the Name of Jesus, Amen.

About the Author:
Charles Wells is an ordained minister who lives in Texas with his 10-year-old son, 6-year-old daughter and his wife. He suffers from major spinal problems and has had three major back surgeries. He has taken this pain and uses it for God’s glory by ministering to people in nursing homes, rehab centers and writing on these experiences. You may visit his blog at

Do you have any trash that needs to be thrown away in the spiritual trash can? Who are some people that you can surround yourself with who will give you treasure? What trash or treasure is impacting your life?

“Give Me Jesus” with Jeremy Camp is a nice way to remember what is really important. Sometimes we feel like we need the approval of people, but what we really should need is JUST Jesus. Lovely song. Ignore the earthly trash or treasure and focus on what is heavenly during those tough times. -Lisa