It Is What It Is – How Do We Accept The Realities of Illness?

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“But godliness with contentment is great gain.” (1 Timothy 6:6)

This is my husband’s favorite saying: “It is what it is.”

It has gotten us through much: My challenges over the past umpteen years, his cancer and subsequent stem cell transplant, and then a heart valve replacement and aortic aneurysm. Now, my diagnosis of Bell’s Palsy adds to the list.

I am learning that “it is what it is.” I am learning that I need to handle what is happening in the here and now.

I’m not saying I don’t pray about whatever is happening. I do. I depend on a lovely group of women for prayer support, as well. I’ve seen miracles happen through prayer.

And yet. . . until something changes. . .it is what it is. Fretting and worrying doesn’t help. Living in “if only” land just brings me pain, regrets, bitterness and heartache.

My husband also adds something to that comment. He says, “It is what it is and we (meaning God and ourselves) will handle it.”

I marvel at his attitude. It is so reassuring for me to hear those words.

I am learning that acceptance is key. My stress levels go down when I don’t fight internal battles – either with myself or with God.

I admit I don’t always like it. I’d be lying if I said I accept all things joyfully. That is a lesson I am still learning and will probably keep on learning while I am on this earth. I’m not to the point of being content with all that has happened. Yet, in some strange way, it is okay–because it has gotten me to where I am in life right now spiritually.

I am learning to trust God. I’m learning that eventually, it will be okay. I’m learning that with God’s help. . . I can deal with it.

I’m learning that “it is what it is” and when it needs to be different–it will be.

So today, I choose to listen to God’s voice telling me, “deni, it is what it is and we will handle it together.”


About the Author:
deni believes that the only true way to deal with chronic pain and chronic illness is to bring them to the feet of her Lord and Savior. Her multiple challenges (Ankylosing Spondylitis, Porphyria, Celiac Sprue, and Atrial Fibrillation to name a few) have taught her many things about herself and her Christian walk. It is her fondest desire that her lessons may be helpful to others as they walk the path of chronic health challenges. She can be reached at .Her website is

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5 thoughts on “It Is What It Is – How Do We Accept The Realities of Illness?

  1. deni,

    Thanks so much for this reminder – and that we can chose to listen to the right sort of messages – I needed that this week!
    Bless you,

  2. Deni,
    Bless you and your hubby for your reminder of perspective. I really appreciated the reminder of not to live in “if only” land. I think I live there all too often. Specifically when it comes to my ten year old daughter. I feel she misses out on so much due to my illness. I can hardly ever predict when I will feel well enough to get out. I homeschool partly due to my illness for I cannot reliably get her to school. My hubby works shift work and struggles with meds side effects for treatment of prostate cancer…so I do know “it is what it is” but now I can add “we will get through it together..(me and JESUS)” …our GOD IS an AWESOME GOD! And I thank Him for Rest Ministries… I thank Him for people like you who share and encourage us in Jesus’ name.

  3. Fiona – thanks for your comment! I always appreciate it that you take the time to encourage a fellow writer! I pray blessings on you today as well!


  4. Barbara! How much we have in common. I homeschool my children as well due to the difficulties of getting them to school, being involved in the school calendar! I will be praying for you and your husband. I do so appreciate your comments!

    Be Blessed!


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